All posts tagged: blog

Why I stopped blogging (and why I’m starting again)

On one of my posts, there was one comment I remember clearly: “Why do you write on topics like this? Nobody cares. Stop blogging.” It stung. It stung hard. It was one comment but the words were sharp. I sat with my laptop on the floor and cried all of that Thursday night. And the next day, I decided to not write on my blog again. It’s taken me 56 days to get back to my site again, and I’m still nervous when I think back to how I felt that one day. Since then, a lot of things have changed. The sidewalks are now filled with winter parkas, and coffee shops smell like pumpkin spice lattes. Instead of ‘Hot Girl Summer’ we are singing carols and waiting patiently for those Black Friday deals to drop. But in my personal life, I feel almost lifeless. Even with all the changes around me, I felt – and still feel – stuck in that moment to when I read that. Not too long after that time, news …

Love Catcher S2 E5: Knocking on the wrong door

Before you get into episode 3, remember to read about episode 1 here and episode 2 here and episode 3 here and episode 4 here! So to recap from last episode, the love triangle is now a love square with Ga Bin in the middle, Chae Rang is being oddly sneaky, and Jung Jin and Sae Ra are still hinting at their interest in each other. The episode starts off with tension between Yeon Woo and In Ook. Now if you remember Yeon Woo went on a date with Ga Bin the day before. But if I’m going to be honest here, the celebrity cast was only focused on how Yeon Woo was shirtless (again). Then it quickly jumps to the kitchen where there are hearts flying around Jung Jin and Sae Ra. As the only ones awake, they cook breakfast together – feeding each other, staring at each other. These two are a definite couple, whether money or love. There’s another palpable tension in the girls’ room. Chae Rang, going into the secret room …

A tall girl’s review of Netflix’s “Tall Girl” movie: Where it falls short

Clearly, I needed to watch this movie as duh, that’s me – the tall girl – but here I will give my honest review on Netflix’s new rom com, “Tall Girl” and where it hits close to heart, but of course, also falls short. A quick summary of the plot: Jodi (played by Ava Michelle) is the tallest girl in her high school at 6’1″. She has always felt uncomfortable in her own skin. To add to it, she is endlessly mocked by her classmates for her height and tries to avoid attention at all costs – until Stig, the Swedish foreign exchange student, comes in. This Netflix movie, as cheesy and exaggerated as it is, actually has pretty relatable parts. The classmates constantly ask Jodi, “How’s the weather up there?” and on a real note, I’ve only gotten that question two or three times. But if there is a routine question I would get, it would be “Do you play volleyball or basketball?” or “It must be hard finding a guy taller than you.” …

Love Catcher S2 E4: The love triangle becomes a love square

Spoiler alert: never underestimate the youngest of the group. Before you get into episode 3, remember to read about episode 1 here and episode 2 here and episode 3 here! Chae Rang and In Ook scheduled a breakfast-making date the day before, making this the first time these two are alone together. Chae Rang gets ready at 8:30 am, and I mean this girl is full makeup ready with some fancy dangle earrings. The thing is, In Ook forgets and goes jogging with two other guys. Disappointed, she comes back to the girls’ side of the house and then Sae Ra with the cute save “How can people go running this early?” Again, my new girl crush. To our surprise (or not), when In Ook comes back he doesn’t even remember he made such plans. Lol. Leave it to the sweet guys Jung Jin and Chan Woo to the rescue with helping Chae Rang for breakfast. Is there a theme that people follow every day? I mean, these guys are head to toe identical in …

Love Catcher S2 E3: The pool of jealousy

Spoiler alert: Min Seok’s identity will be revealed in this review! Before you get into episode 3, remember to read about episode 1 here and episode 2 here! Tensions start to rise as love lines start to form. But before we get into that, can we get an amen to the men who took off their shirts in this episode? The first one is Yeon Woo. Let’s just say, never underestimate the youngest of the bunch! So Young expresses to Ga Bin that she has an interest in In Ook, and Ga Bin reveals that she feels the same but also is confused because she also is interested in Chan Woo. But zoom out, and you’ll see that while they’re talking, Chae Rang is in front of them “looking in the mirror” but actually secretly snitching on the other two girls. Goodness, I called it from the beginning that this girl is all about being a Money Catcher. Side note, as much as I am not a huge fan of Chae Rang, her earrings are …

X1 Flash Part 2: TMI news and the debut stage

The boys have officially made their debut! But before we get to that, the members did something called ‘TMI News’ where they revealed some of the behind the scenes moments from their pre-debut days. Here are the 11 moments you missed: 1. The members were first afraid of Han Gyul. The jean jacket and the up do hair (when he initially arrived for Produce X 101) might have given the bad boy vibe initially but the other boys quickly learned that in fact, he was the sweetest of them all! 2. The cuteness battle between Dong Pyo and Hyunh Jun begins. They are deemed as ‘rivals’ for the member with the most aegyo. In the Korean culture, aegyo or 애교 refers to a cute display of affection. Who do you think is the winner? 3. He may cute but is he clean? The other members reveal some news that may be surprising to ONE ITs – Dong Pyo does not like to shower! He tells Yo Han that he washes after him and that’s why …

120 days left of 2019: What are you going to do with them?

There are exactly 120 days until 2019 is over and a new year begins. Time really flies when you’re having fun – or did you? Instead of self reflecting a day or two before the New Years, I encourage you to reflect on your year right now. How did you spend 2019? Are you satisfied by your accomplishments and were you your best self? Did you grow in any way? Can you proudly say this was your best year yet? If you’ve answered ‘no’ to any of these questions, do not panic. 120 days may seem like too late for you. It might have even scared you that there are only FOUR months to find someone to kiss on New Years. But I want to let you know, you have plenty of time. I had a hard time dealing with the “let me work on a resolution midway through the year” mentality. I’m one of those OCD kids who need to have a fresh start on a Monday or on the first of each month …

Feeling stuck? How to get started in loving yourself

Declaring love for someone is probably one of the most courageous things to do. It encompasses not only the present but also the future – you love them now but you’re inevitably telling them you’ll love them in the next minute as well. It seems like we go through a cycle of saying we are ‘in love’ with multiple people. We declare love for someone who we might have dated for a couple of months (or days). We even declare love after a couple of good dates. But as humans, we make mistakes. We realize that as time ticks, people grow. And as seasons change, we understand that some of those “loves” are mere ‘loving experiences.’ But then, why do we go back to the people who’ve hurt us the most? Is it because the euphoria that comes with such connections clouds the reasons why we broke up in the first place? Or is it because when we are in a time of vulnerability, we turn to those who we have been vulnerable to? When we’re in a …

Are long distance relationships worth it?

676 miles between us. This equals 13 hours of driving (or 8.7 days of walking!) I’m in Philadelphia and my boyfriend currently resides in Charleston. But this has not always been the case. Today marks 8 months of us being apart (physically). Unless you start off on a dating site and find your significant other in a far away city or even country, going from being together 24/7 to once a month is a major transition that involves a lot of work, money, time on both parties. One question I get a lot is, “Is it even worth it?” Not going to lie, at first I was pretty pessimistic. I mean, you’re reading about a girl who literally required a good night cuddle to fall asleep every night. In addition to my needy self, I admit that I was jealous that I wasn’t the one moving – the one getting a fresh start in a new city. He was. He got a big promotion in his amazing company and a new field that he loved. …

Saying ‘no’ to self-hate

I am saying ‘no’ because you have ruined my relationships and have halted my progress in the current one. I am saying ‘no’ because too many times I have cried on the floor holding my chest, thinking that my heart would shatter if I didn’t. I am saying ‘no’ because there is more to life than you.  I am saying ‘no’ to self-hate. My name is Carol. I am not a fitness guru or a social media influencer. I am your average Joe who has believed for most of her life that being skinny, rich and insta-famous were the ways to happiness – so that is exactly what I always strived to be. Until yesterday.  I was done. Fed up. Sick of the way my recent vacation ended. I could not look at my boyfriend’s face and tell him that I wanted to be there with him because the only thing I was focused on was how bad I felt about myself. All I wanted to do was to hole up and pity myself. I indeed indulged …